maximalminimality

Welcome to the beginning of the series of short, power-packed lessons that I will be blogging about. Basically, I'm just writing about the things that I noticed in my daily life and hopefully you can use such experiences to become a better person.

Today I shall be writing about:

Almost 90% of the time you spend with your friends involves chatting with each other. However, the process of talking is quite complex, and will affect what your friends will think , feel and act towards you. Thus, it is important to understand the hots and the nots of chatting.

Basically, there are 3 things you can talk about when you're with your friends:

You talk about your assignments and how much you have already finished or not finished. You talk about your lecturers and you gossip about other classmates. The truth is this: NOBODY LIKES TO TALK ABOUT THIS (exceptions during assignment seasons and group discusssions). Why is that? If you talk too much about work/studies, people will think you're some lifeless idiot trying too hard to prove yourself and that you might be exploiting them. If you brag too much (conscious or unconsciously) about your achievements, people will think you're some stuck-up loser.

Basically you can also talk about worldly issues, fashion, music, video games, and basically anything general. There's nothing wrong with exchanging opinions with your friends about what's happening around the world, but if you do it too much, people will think that you're trying too hard to impress others with your knowledge. People do not like know-it-alls. Sometimes, knowledge suppression is a more humble act.

Which means you talk about yourself and the person/people you're talking to. And I'm not only referring to your favorite color and your interests but more of your past history and your dreams and visions of the future. This is the number 1 thing many people cannot talk about. Perhaps they fear that whatever they reveal about themselves will be used against them in the future. But believe me, PEOPLE WANT TO KNOW THE PERSON THEY ARE TALKING TO (and not just your name, mind you). So, self disclosure is an important tool people need to learn to utilize. 

People will become close friends with others that talk about the same things that they do. For example, if you talk about work a lot, you tend to become close friends with those that are work-oriented too but not so close with people-oriented friends. However, closest/best friends only can be made when you're a people-oriented person. So if you don't have a best friend yet, you might be talking about the wrong things at the wrong times with people. 

Hope this helps your friendships grow stronger every day!